How to Help a Loved One With Addiction
Posted By Schick Shadel || May 25, 2016
Having a loved one who is addicted to drugs or alcohol can be a touchy subject. There may be a lot of things that you are feeling or ideas you think will help that person. It’s a great thing that you want to help as much as possible, but you must understand that there are ways you can help your loved one, and ways you can do more harm than good. It is important to know what you can do to help your loved one deal with addiction, whether they are seeking sobriety or are in their recovery. You should also understand what not to do.
At Schick Shadel, our methods have helped more than 65,000 patients over the past 80+ years, and we know what it takes to help a loved one with addiction. Not only do we focus on making sure our patients achieve sobriety, we aim to make sure they maintain it long after they leave our doors. This means making sure the addicted individual’s loved ones understand what they can do to help. Below, we outline some of the best ways to help your loved one and things you should avoid.
What to Do to Help
When your loved one comes to you for help, there are certain actions you can take to reaffirm to the person that you love them and you are there for them. First, make sure you understand drug or alcohol addiction. Know what it means to the person and what they are feeling at this time. It’s not an easy situation to endure and it may have been even more difficult for the person to come to you for help. By understanding what they are going through, you can better discuss their feelings and try to help them.
Whenever you are with the person, make sure you discuss your concerns, but only do so in a loving and supportive way. Your loved one should know that you’re willing to stand by their side every step of the way and help them seek the help they need. Most of all, you should understand and respect that recovery is an ongoing process. It’s not something that is going to happen overnight. Show your loved one that you are committed to his or her long-term support by continuously helping them whenever you can, and keeping an open ear for whenever they may need you.
What Not to Do
In some situations, you may have a person who is addicted to drugs or alcohol, and you are not quite sure what to do. We encourage you to take the time and do your research so you know the ways that can actually harm your loved one’s attempt to get sober. First, you want to make sure that you are not preaching to the person. They understand the situation they are in and they know that something is wrong. If they come to you for help, don’t make them feel worse about themselves.
At the same time, you don’t want to enable them or justify their actions. Acknowledge that they need help and support them. If they are noticeably under the influence when they come to you, don’t argue or fight. Just wait until they can have a rational conversation with you, and then discuss the help they need. Finally, remember you are helping them. While you want them to get sober, this is not your battle and you shouldn’t take on all the responsibilities or try to protect them. Support them when they need it.
If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, call our team today. We are ready to help you get sober and reach a new point in your life. From start to finish, we are completely dedicated to helping you get over the addiction you face. Give us 10 days and we’ll give you back your life.